When asked, “Do you love yourself” I am sure your first response is, “Of, course I love myself!” But do you, really?! In order to have “Your Happily Ever After” with your partner or potential partner…you need to embrace and love who you really are. You must love yourself unconditionally as well as respect and honor yourself. If you don’t love yourself, respect and honor yourself, how can you expect your someone else to. When you love yourself unconditionally, it opens your heart to love your partner at a deeper level. Even more amazingly, you are opening yourself up for your partner and others to love you as well. How cool is that? You are probably thinking, but my partner does love me. Yes, that maybe very true, but can you imagine how much love, respect and honor your relationship could have if you started with yourself? It could take your relationship to a whole new level that you never knew that you were capable of having.
Stay with me here, the first steps that you need to take in truly loving yourself unconditionally is:
* Look at yourself in the eyes in a mirror
* Continue to have eye contact with yourself
* Repeat: “I love you very much {your 1st name},
you are perfect just the way you are.”
* Do this on a daily basis.
I know that you are maybe thinking, some people think loving yourself is vain, and I don’t want people to think that of me. But it really isn’t, as you are a person that has self worth. You need to start treating yourself with love and respect. When you do this, you will start to automatically find things to love and respect about yourself even more. During your day, say to yourself, “I love and accept myself,” this will continue to reinforce it. It’s so important for you to connect with yourself first before you can connect with anybody else.
You maybe thinking, what does this have to do with my relationship with my partner. It has EVERYTHING to do with it!!! If you don’t love yourself, how are you going to believe that someone can truly love you. I know in my past relationships and even in my first marriage, I couldn’t understand how the other person could possibly love me…it’s sad, but true! It wasn’t until I truly embraced who I really was and loved myself, that I finally believed that somebody could really truly love me. Now, when my amazing husband tells me he loves me…I believe him!
As you grow to love yourself even more, you will be able to start easily forgiving yourself for things that you may not have been able to do so in the past. As you learn to forgive yourself, you will learn to forgive your partner as well.
There is no way to have success in any area of your life without having a healthy and happy relationship, first and foremost…starting with yourself.
Susan Preston is a relationship consultant, specializing in putting the RELATE back into relationships. She is passionate about helping individuals, couples, families to learn how to put the relate back into their relationships! Susan is also, a public speaker, and has shared the stage with many of the top speakers at events worldwide. With her unique philosophy, Susan helps her clients to discover their true magnificence and how to embrace it. She helps them to understand that to have a successful relationship, it is vital that they must be authentic…starting with themselves. With a slight change in mindset, Susan equips them with the necessary tools to give them the clarity that they need to successfully enhance their relationships.
Do you really love yourself? Do you even know if you do? Heal your life, heal your relationships! If you would like more help with this, send an email to Susan@SusanCanHelpMe.com and in the subject line put, “Free Consultation.” Susan will give a free 30 minute consultation to answer any pressing questions that you may have. Please include 3 different times you are available, I am EST. You are so WORTH it and I believe in YOU!!!
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I love this exercise of looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you love YOU. I was surprised by how hard and uncomfortable it was the first time I did it! Thanks for the great advice, as always, Susan!
Dawn, I am honored that you had me as a guest. I appreciate each and everyone of you. I love all of the wonderful comments. Thank you
Loving and accepting yourself is the key to success in all of your other relationships. Without this strong foundation, everything else is on shaky ground. Great article!
Absolutely. What I love most about this article from Susan is it makes us all stop for a moment and do a love check on ourselves. Thank you everyone for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.
This is a great blog! ANd a reminder to continue learning to love myself…something I lost sight of in recent years!
Love this perspective–even though it’s not always ‘easy’ to practice I know it’s the only way to truly ‘grow-up’ and move forward the way I long to!
Thank you for sharing this wonderful post! I really appreciate your insights and wisdom!
I loved hearing your voice, Susan! Awesome… Getting to know you more & more, my friend. You are so right about loving ourselves first. x0x
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Thank you for a great reminder about the love and respect of ourselves that is the essential foundation for being in relationship with another!
GREAT guest blog post! Loving oneself is HUGE and will make an impact on so many areas of our lives.
“There is no way to have success in any area of your life without having a healthy and happy relationship, first and foremost…starting with yourself.” THAT is a keeper! Thanks for having the guest blogger in! Kudos to you both!
Great insight. Reminds me of calling in the one… which is a great book.
I love Susan’s insight! It’s very important for both be to be whole and complete before entering into a relationship. Loving yourself shows other people how to love you! Awesome article!
Seems obvious, but most people forget to do it. It’s important to like the person staring back at you in that mirror!
Amazing post! Susan has such insightful wisdom when it comes to relationships others….and ourselves
Totally agree. It’s impossible to love others unless you first love yourself. Thank you for sharing that wisdom!
Great Susan! I wrote a similar post about looking in the mirror and loving yourself. It is an unbelievably hard task!
I will try that saying in the mirror! Thanks!
Another fabulous piece of wisdom by Susan! I really love that this article delves into what self love is-having a loving, caring relationship with yourself first. Thanks so much!
Love Susan and all the wisdom and knowledge that she brings! What great information here about truly loving yourself. If we long to love others, we must love ourselves. Thanks so much for sharing!
We also love Susan. Her advice is so simple and easy to follow. Thanks for stopping by.
Absolutely – you need to start withyourself before you can move forward. Good post. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you, and you are absolutely right… it all starts with us. It’s very hard to give what we don’t have and if we are not loving to ourselves, it is difficult to share it with us. Thank you so much for stopping by.