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Celebrating Buddha’s Birth and Enlightenment

In the Buddhist tradition, June 15th is a greatly auspicious day as it commemorates Buddha’s birth, enlightenment, and parinirvana (passing from this world).  On this day we join Buddhists around the world in celebration by embracing Siddhārtha Gautama Buddha’s humor and great storytelling abilities.  Below you’ll find some of the best short stories that embody Buddha’s teachings.

The Bird’s Nest: An old Buddhist tale that exemplifies the simplicity of Buddha’s teachings:

Once a very old king went to see an old hermit who lived in a bird’s nest in the top of a tree, “What is the most important Buddhist teaching?” The hermit answered, “Do no evil, do only good. Purify your heart.” The king had expected to hear a very long explanation. He protested, “But even a five-year old child can understand that!” “Yes,” replied the wise sage, “but even an 80-year-old man cannot do it.”

Keep Your Gift

Gautama Buddha’s preaching was interrupted one day by a man unleashing a flurry of abusive invective.  Calmly waiting for his critic to finish, Buddha asked: “If a man offered a gift to another but the gift was declined, to whom would the gift belong?” “To the one who offered it,” the man replied.  “Then,” Buddha declared, “I decline to accept your abuse and request that you keep it for yourself.”

Let it Settle

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. This was in the initial days. While they were travelling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that some people were washing clothes in the water, and right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!” So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.” After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake. This time he found that the lake had absolutely clear water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha. Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said, “See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water. Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.”

Who’s My Owner?

Once child Gautama Buddha, then known as Siddhartha, went to his father’s farm. During recess he was resting under a tree enjoying the peace and beauty of the nature. While so seated a bird fell from the sky just in front of him. The bird had been shot at by an arrow which had pierced its body and was fluttering about in great agony.

Siddhartha rushed to help the bird. He removed the arrow, dressed its wound and gave it water to drink. He picked up the bird, came to the place where he was seated and wrapped up the bird in his upper garment and held it next to his chest to give it warmth.

Siddhartha was wondering who could have shot this innocent bird. Before long there came his cousin Devadatta armed with all the implements of shooting. He told Siddhartha that he had shot a bird flying in the sky, the bird was wounded but it flew some distance and fell somewhere there, and asked him if he had seen it. Siddharth replied in the affirmative and showed him the bird which had by that time completely recovered.

Devadatta demanded that the bird be handed over to him. This Siddhartha refused to do. A sharp argument ensued between the two. Devadatta argued that he was the owner of the bird because by the rules of the game, he who kills a game becomes the owner of the game. Siddhartha denied the validity of the rule. He argued that it is only he who protects that has the right to claim ownership. How can he who wants to kill be the owner?

Neither party would yield. The matter was referred to arbitration. The arbitrator upheld the point of view of Siddhartha Gautama.

Devadatta became his permanent enemy. But Gautama’s spirit of compassion was so great that he preferred to save the life of an innocent bird to securing the goodwill of his cousin.
Such were the traits of character found in the early life of Siddhartha Gautama.

 

For more stories you can download Buddha’s Tales for Young and Old, a free e-book of Buddhist stories told by Todd Anderson.

Note:  Some of these stories are very old and the original source has long been lost.

Image courtesy of vickypoo.

Dalai Lama: Compassion Personified

Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama, is not only the head of state and the spiritual leader of Tibet, he is also a living example of love, understanding and compassion.  He travels around the world spreading messages of peace, religious tolerance, happiness, and kindness.

He has inspired millions of people around the world through his books, writings, actions and charismatic personality.  He always has a smile to share and a warm heart that he willingly shares with everyone.

Some of the more inspiring quotes that are reflective of his belief system include:

  • It is necessary to help others, not only in our prayers, but in our daily lives. If we find we cannot help others, the least we can do is to desist from harming them.
  • Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.
  • There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies. My brain and my heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness.
  • With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.
The Dalai Lama lives a life in pursuit of three major commitments:
  1. The promotion of human values such as compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment and self-discipline.
  2. The promotion of religious harmony and understanding among the world’s major religious traditions.
  3. To act as the free spokesperson of the Tibetans in their struggle for justice.

In addition to being the author of over 70 books, the Dalai Lama has received over 84 awards, honorary doctorates, prizes, etc., in recognition of his message of peace, non-violence, inter-religious understanding, universal responsibility and compassion.  However, through it all he remains humble and describes himself as a simple Buddhist monk.

Background

At the age of two he was recognized as the reincarnation of the 13th Dalai Lama.  The Dalai Lamas are believed to be manifestations of Avalokiteshvara or Chenrezig, the Bodhisattva of Compassion and patron saint of Tibet.  Bodhisattvas are enlightened beings who have postponed their own nirvana and chosen to take rebirth in order to serve humanity.

Growing up he studied various subjects including:  logic, Tibetan art and culture, Sanskrit, medicine, the perfection of wisdom, philosophy, the canon of monastic discipline, metaphysics, logic and epistemology, poetry, music and drama, astrology, motre and phrasing, and synonyms.

In 1950 the Dalai Lama assumed full political power after China’s invasion of Tibet in 1949.  He has been living in exile since 1959 in northern India.

The Dalai Lama is a man of peace and in 1989 he was awarded a Nobel prize for his non-violent efforts to liberate Tibet.  Through his peace initiatives, the Dalai Lama envisions that Tibet can become a zone of peace at the heart of Asia, where all sentient beings can exist in harmony and the delicate environment can be preserved.  But his efforts are not limited only to Tibet as he has also been recognized for his concern for global environmental problems.

 

To find out more about the Dalai Lama visit his official website here.

To read more quotes from the Dalai Lama you can go here.

Three Fruits of the Spirit

Gentleness, goodness and kindness are three concepts that will help us bring out the best in others through action.

In the following article, Kaylene Maize shares with us specific examples and guidelines that we can use to share these fruits with those around us.

The more I reflect on the fruits of the Spirit the more I begin to realize they all go hand in hand! You can’t have one without another! You can’t be kind unless you’re gentle and you cannot be joyful without love, and peace comes from being patient…. I think you get my point! I don’t think God gave us these fruits as virtues to be practiced individually; rather He gave us these fruits so that we can be highly effective Christians who practice all of the fruits of the spirit in our lives.

As Christians we are called to go out into the world and spread His love and life everywhere that we go, just like St. Francis of Assisi once said: “Proclaim the Gospel always, use words if necessary.” We are called to serve God through not only our words but also through our actions. That’s where gentleness, kindness and goodness come in.  These three fruits of the spirit are important to practice in today’s society especially. We live in a world that is lacking in these areas, there are people who yearn to be loved and accepted in this world and it is our duty as Christians to make sure each and every individual knows that they are loved and they have value and worth in this world! We need to bring out the best in people in instead of bringing out the worst. We need to build up strong men and women of God, not tear them down.  As brothers and sisters in Christ and sons and daughters of God we can be the change our world so desperately needs!

Gentleness

  • The Greek word translated as “gentleness” is also sometimes translated as “meekness” or “mildness.”
  • Thomas Aquinas, for example, teaches that meekness “moderates anger according to right reason” (Summa Theologica II:II:157).
  • Von Hildebrand captures the true power of gentleness: “For the meek is reserved true victory over the world, because it is not they themselves who conquer, but Christ in them and through them” (Transformation in Christ, 421).
  • Mass: For our God is full of gentleness and compassion
  • Gentleness comes from growing in union with the Heart of Jesus, as we love, trust, and imitate him more
  • Two qualities belong to the meaning of gentleness and they are strength and love
  • Only strong people can be gentle, because gentleness restrains strength by love.
  • Gentleness is impossible in the absence of humility
    • If we wish to be in imitation of Jesus, to be gentle we must become humble.
    • The best indicator of how humble we are is how gentle we are
    • Have we ever asked ourselves why do we get irritated with people? Why do they bother us?
    • Speck in our brother’s eye, and we don’t see the beam in our own. And do you know why? Because maybe the beam is so big in our own eyes we can’t even recognize the fact that the person does have virtue, does have fine qualities.
    • We always see others through our own eyes. And our eyes are sinful eyes
      • Decenter your selves! Too often we think we’re the center of the world! The moment we realize we’re not the center we become more at peace and can more fully meet people where they are.
  • The virtue of gentleness is built right in to the middle of the Lord’s Prayer. Forgive us, we plead, with God.
  • Nothing under heaven except the grace of God can make us, as we should be, gentle. We need that grace. Jesus will give it to us if only we earnestly ask Him. Jesus, meek and humble of heart, make our hearts like unto thine. Amen.

Goodness

  • A few simple guidelines for feeling good everyday
    • Be honorable in all your dealing
      • May your yes mean yes and your no mean no!!
      • Fully and faithfully commit yourself to the activities you are involved in
      • Don’t be a minimalist- we are called to not just survive but to thrive
      • “It is He who provokes you with that thrust for fullness that won’t let you settle for compromise” –JPII
      • Use your influence to help someone else
        • We have influence! Like salt, we flavor life by what we say and do
        • Let time be a tool, not a tyrant
          • Relationships thrive under one condition: Carefree timelessness
          • Don’t be too busy trying to be happy, simplify your lives so that you can see the good in the world! In very ordinary times God’s love shows through in extra ordinary ways!
        • Build and maintain a support network
          • God puts people in our lives for a reason
        • Practice forgiveness daily
          • Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us
        • Strive to be a true friend
          • “A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter” -Sirach 6:13
          • The foundation of relationship is acceptance
          • Three As of friendship: Affirmation, acceptance and assurance

Kindness

  • Ways to bring back kindness
    • Remind yourself that kindness is in short supply
      • National problem: we do not get enough positive human contact in our daily life
      • Make kindness your daily priority
        • No matter what you do or where you live, commit to making kindness a priority in daily life
        • Make it a daily goal to speak and act kindly
        • Random acts of kindness
          • Holding the door open for someone
          • Offering to help someone with their groceries
          • Praying for the person who cut you off on the freeway instead of getting angry
        • Offer the kindness of gratitude
          • Your kind expression may be a rare word of appreciation heard by a person
          • There are 6 billion people on the planet, and 5.9 billion of them go to bed every night starving for one honest word of appreciation.
          • Smile it is contagious and opens people’s hearts
          • People will forget the things you’ve said, People will forget the things you’ve done, but they will never forget… the way you made them feel.
        • Practice kindness in your neighborhood
          • Kindness should come from our hearts, should start at home with our families, our neighbors across the street, those right next door and this kindness should then reach everyone
          • People are meant to be loved and things are meant to be used, but too often we love things and use people.
          • Make it a point to remember people’s names, it is music to their ears

The fruits of the spirit are virtues that are given to us from God not just to have as more rules or things to think about, He gave them to us so that we can become more gentle, kind and good people who care about one another and respect each other. More often than not our actions speak louder than our words! What is keeping us from being the kind, loving gentle people God created us to be? Do not be afraid my friends, we’re all in this together!!

If you want to change the world, start with those around you! Your family and friends, neighbors and coworkers!

 

This article was written by Kaylene Maize.  To contact the author please e-mail Soulgineering’s Editor.

Random Acts of Kindness

Practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty. -Anne Herbert

Have you ever noticed that when your day couldn’t get any worse and you’re feeling down, a stranger’s act of kindness changes your day?  Perhaps you are late to work and a stranger lets you have the only cab around.  Or you didn’t realize that your pants have a hole in the pocket and you don’t have the money to pay for that much needed Starbucks coffee, only to turn around and realize that the person next to you just paid your bill.

Other people’s actions have a funny way of affecting our own.  By the same token, our actions affect other people as well.  So if our acts are contagious, why not offer a kind act that will brighten someone’s day?

If you are looking for ideas you can find some on Lifehack or on the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation.  Or you can simply do what feels right for you.

Check out these anonymous stories from NooGenesis.com from people who have witnessed RAKs:

Earlier this year,Beth’s father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. After taking a three week leave of absence from her job at an accounting firm, Beth made a 230 mile drive daily to ensure her father was being taken care of properly. Her fellow employees at the firm voluntarily collected money to help pay for some of the expenses. The partners of the firm matched the sum of the money collected by Beth’s colleagues. Wouldn’t it be great if we all could work with such nice folks?

At the end of a very terrible day when things in my life seemed out of control, and everyone seemed caught up in their troubles and work, the man in the booth at the lot I park my car smiled this incredible smile at me. I realized that each day when I leave work, he is always there with a nice word and smile and makes me feel better. I thanked him for his smile, and let him know how much it meant to me.

A group of co-workers were talking after lunch one day about what they would do if they had a million dollars. Some talked of trips, others of new houses. One man, who never said much at the lunch table, said that he would buy a half-gallon of ice-cream and eat it in one sitting. It seemed he had several children, and ice-cream on his budget was a luxury, so it was seldom purchased. Later that day at a coffee break, his co-worker presented him with a half-gallon of strawberry ice-cream and a spoon, and he ate every last bite. For one afternoon, due to an act of kindness, he became a millionaire.

Photo courtesy of genesis.

Pay it Forward

What would you do if your assignment was to come up with a plan to change the world?  It’s a tall order but one that young Trevor McKinney takes to heart in this dramatic tear-jerker based on the book by Catherine Ryan Hyde.

Trevor decides to help create an Utopian Earth by selflessly helping three people.  In turn, these people need to help three more and so on.

Here’s how he describes it to his mother and teacher: “You see, I do something real good for three people. And then when they ask how they can pay it back, I say they have to Pay It Forward. To three more people. Each. So nine people get helped. Then those people have to do twenty-seven.”

He then turns on his calculator, punches in some numbers and says, “Then it sort of spreads out, see. To eighty-one. Then two hundred forty-three. Then seven hundred twenty-nine. Then two thousand, one hundred eighty-seven. See how big it gets?”

The movie chronicles the struggles that Trevor goes through to do something nice for the three people he has chosen.  While some people might have watched the movie and moved on, others have embraced the concept of paying it forward in real life.  For example, the Pay it Forward Foundation works with kids to teach them that they can indeed change the world and helps them do it.  There’s even a Pay it Forward Day on April 28th.

If you would like to pay it forward you can follow these tips provided by wikiHow:

  1. Be attentive wherever you are for opportunities to help someone.  You can change people’s attitudes about the world through your unobtrusive acts of kindness.
  2. Do something nice for someone you don’t know (or don’t know very well). It should be something significant, and not for a person from whom you expect a good deed — or anything at all, for that matter — in return.
  3. Spread the word. If the person thanks you and wants to “repay” you (that is, pay it “back”), let them know that what you’d really like is for them to pay it “forward” — you’d like them to do something nice for three people they don’t know, and ask those three people to do something nice for three more people.
  4. Pay it forward. When you notice that somebody has done something nice for you, make a note in your mind to practice three acts of kindness towards other people.

To watch the movie trailer go here.