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What Makes Children Happy?

Today’s children are becoming known as the Entitled Generation.  Kids today feel like they deserve the best toys, the best clothes, the best video gaming system in town.  But have we stopped to wonder if these things are really making them happy?

Gina Toothaker from the Craig Daily Press believes that environment plays a big role:

So how do we help our kids be happy and successful, without becoming what many experts dub the “Entitled Generation?” Maybe the better question is how much do we control our children’s happiness? We know temperament is partially genetic, but most experts believe environment plays a bigger part. There may be a genetic predisposition for anxiety and depression, but research indicates a variety of factors contributing to a child’s happiness and resiliency in today’s world.

Most people deal with children every day.  You might be a child’s parent or aunt, or you may run across them in the supermarket or mall.  You may be their neighbor or tutor.  Whatever role children play in your life, how often have you taken the time to figure out what makes a child truly happy?

Ms. Toothaker has several suggestions on what to consider:

Encourage a child to make connections with positive role models so that they feel loved and encouraged.

Don’t grant them every wish as this will only make it harder for them to deal with disappointment or frustration as they get older.

Become a good role model yourself.  Allow your children to see you happy.

Praise efforts rather than achievements.  Let them know that there effort was well worth it and appreciated regardless of the results.

Allow your child to fail as this will help teach them perseverance.

Teach your kids gratitude.

Remind children that happiness is a choice and they make the ultimate decision on whether or not they will be happy.

To read the full article at Craig Daily Press go here.


The Loving Power of Dogs

Greta, Piddley Oops and Dippy have proven to me that love comes in many forms.  Love doesn’t need to come from another human being, it can also come from the wag of a tail or a big sloppy canine kiss.

Six years ago I would not be writing this post.  Up until then I had believed that pets belonged outdoors and served a particular purpose.  Big dogs worked for a living and small dogs were there to give old rich ladies an extra accessory.  So what changed?  I got into a relationship where my significant other had a dog (Greta) and five cats (Gray, Nelly, Pigpen, Sugar, and Bear).

At first it was a bit difficult to adjust to the change: the pet hair, the smells, the poop and the money spent on their upkeep.  When I woke up in the middle of the night one day only to find a big black cat standing on my chest and staring at me, I just about gave up on them.  However, little by little they won my heart over.

Dippy. She was a tiny chihuahua puppy that my niece adored.  They say that animals can’t smile but if you look at her picture you’ll see the face that I looked at every time I came over to visit.  She would jump for joy when I came over and flash me that heart-melting smile as soon as she saw me.  How long it had been since I had seen her was of no concern to her.  She only cared that I was there and was willing to give her some TLC.

Piddley Oops. Piddles was a shitzu puppy that I got when it was just a month old.  Her name came about because when I got her it seemed like all she did all day was piddle on the floor.  And the oops came about because one day my significant other were discussing how great it would be if one day we just had an oops and I became pregnant.  That day was the day that Piddles came to live with us.  It wasn’t planned, it merely just happened – a real oops.  The cool thing about Piddles was that no matter how many times I yelled at her or how long I paid her attention, she was always ready to jump on my lap and give me a big wet kiss.  Every time she saw my significant other and I being affectionate, she would drop what she was doing and come right between us so that we could share that love.  I didn’t know how much she had come to mean to me until the day she died.  That day I cried and cried for hours.  But then an image popped into my mind of Piddles jumping from cloud to cloud and looking down at me with her big toothy grin and letting me know that she would still love me and take care of me.  When I feel down or depressed, I just remember that vision and the unconditional love she gave me and I remember that everything will be okay, even if things don’t turn out exactly as I had hoped for.

Greta. She is a big german shepherd who doesn’t know she’s a d-o-g.  As soon as I wake up she comes over and wags her tail and waits for her morning lovings and then goes on her merry way.  And when there’s someone with bad intentions around, she warns me to stay away.  When I tell her she’s pretty she gives me the biggest smiles.  Whenever she sees me cry, the first thing she does is come over to me and give me a big wet kiss.  She won’t leave my side until she knows I’m okay.  And when we are pulling a trick on the cats, I could swear she winks at me.

I have definitely grown in the last six years.  I have learned to be more open to receiving love.  I have learned that sometimes love and compassion can come from that which we fight the most. I have learned  that unconditional love does exist and if can exist between a dog and a human, why can’t it exist between two humans?

So ask yourself, when was the last time you had someone in your life who comforted you when you were down, smiled and played with you whenever you needed it, and waited with baited breath until you came home.  How many people do you know who will love you no matter what and will go with you to the end of the earth if you so wish it.

Validation

Excuse me, but do you validate?

Validation is a short film written and directed by Kurt Kuenne.   The viewer is captured by the story of, a smiley and happy parking attendant (T.J. Thyne), who goes beyond the call of duty and rather than just validating drivers’ parking tickets, he includes a special kind of validation: their value and worth as unique individuals.

As the parking attendant compliments people on their appearance and demeanor and touches on their inner qualities, you can see the smiles growing.  Our happy attendant goes beyond the everyday man and brings validation to even President Bush and Saddam Hussein.

Life seems to being going great for him until he enters the DMV where he is confronted with a beautiful photographer (Vicki Davis) who strictly adheres to the DMV policy of NO SMILING.  Despite trying and trying our parking attendant eventually becomes defeated because there is one person he can’t make smile. Can our happy parking attendant pull himself out of it?

What happens to someone that makes them stop smiling?

To watch the short on Youtube go here.