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The Fork in the Road

We all have experiences from our past that haunt us, influence us and affect the decisions we make today.  Some experiences are so painful that we alter the very course of our lives based off of decisions that were made while in the midst of the resulting pain or despair.  The precise moment that we have such an experience, combined with the resulting choices and decisions that we have to make, become a fork in the road of our lives.

Here is my fork in the road…

For as long as I can remember I have been a person who I consider to be either in the middle of the road or sub-par.  In school I knew I could do much better than I did, but for some reason, I wouldn’t put in the effort to even try and do better. I tried so little in fact, that I eventually just dropped out.  At work I would let myself get to a certain comfort level and then back off.  It’s not that I didn’t have plenty of opportunities to excel and go further.  Rather, with every new opportunity to do something a little more challenging – but something I knew I would love doing and could raise me up the corporate ladder – I would find a way out of it.  My job at a news radio station is a perfect example.  I worked really hard to get the job and I loved it beyond belief, even though I was in the lowest position a person in the newsroom could work.  I was given three different offers that would have promoted me but I talked my way out of all three and I eventually left.

Another example was when I was hired as a writer for an online city guide. I liked the job but it was hard for me because I really struggle with grammar.  So rather than pushing ahead with being a writer, I took a position in what was probably the lowest team on the company’s totem pole doing mainly data entry.  Even though I eventually worked my way up to managing that team, I always knew I could have been doing so much more.

Recently, I had an opportunity to co-host a Blogtalk radio show and help grow Soulgineering.com.  For a time there, I was soaring pretty high; I actually loved waking up every morning.  On radio show days, I would wake up hours earlier then I needed to, just so that I would have the chance to think about the upcoming show, what I would learn from our guest and the questions I would ask. I was in love.  But the moment the opportunity came up to take over the Soulgineering site or take over the Blogtalk radio show and do them on my own, I reverted right back to the old me that I had become accustomed to.  If it takes too much effort, or if I am putting myself out there too much, I will just find a way to make it all go away.

And this is how the story of my life has gone.  Now for the fork in the road.

A couple of weeks ago, I was at a restaurant where I had done some photography work and one of the employees, a young man in his early 20’s, said he wanted to ask me a question.  He explained that he didn’t want me to get offended or misunderstand him. Immediately my curiosity was piqued.  Little did I know that what he would ask me would spark a huge shift in my life.  He asked me one simple question:  “Why aren’t you great yet?”  The moment those words flew out of his mouth, I knew exactly what he meant by it. It was almost as if I knew that someday, someone would ask me this very same question. He wanted to know how someone with a personality like mine had not yet become well-known or successful.  He added, “If someone like you hasn’t managed to become successful, how am I supposed to?”  I was completely floored but more than anything, I was embarrassed.

The young man at the restaurant had picked up on a secret dream of mine.  When I worked at that radio station or even when I co-hosted that little Blogtalk show, I had wanted to be well known. I know this might sound vain but it really isn’t. I love talking, asking questions, sharing information and the more people I could share it with, the more I loved it.  Even though I wasn’t surprised by the question, I was stumped because I didn’t have a ready answer. However, I did know that it all just didn’t make sense. How could I have these daydreams and yet not believe in myself to actually accomplish what I was dreaming?  What was causing the roadblock that seemed to get in my way everywhere I went?  I thought long and hard about what he was saying and then I I came to a realization:  all along the way, I had had people in my life that tried to lift me up, people that supported me and people that believed in me a lot more than I believed in myself.  I could see that the supportive network was there, yet I still didn’t know what these people saw in me that I couldn’t see in myself.

When I came home from the restaurant, I told my girlfriend about it and she posed the same question to me, why haven’t I become successful?  I even called one of my close friends and when I told them about the conversation, they literally said they felt like they were pounding their head against the wall with me about this very same thing.  It suddenly dawned on me that I owed it to that young man, to my girlfriend, to my amazing friends that kept offering support, but mostly to myself, to look for the answer.   I asked myself “Why am I so afraid to put myself out there and just go for it?” I tried all the rational answers on for size, but the truth is that I am not scared of failure or success.  The truth is that there was something much deeper at play.

For a couple of days this conundrum was constantly on my mind. Then one night while sleeping, I kept replaying a childhood memory almost as if it were a nightmare.  Only it wasn’t a nightmare but a very real experience. In my memory-dream, I was about 10 or 11 years old. My mom was at work and my brother and I were going to spend the day with my dad’s best friend and his kids. I got all dressed up, in a long brown skirt and boots (with a little heal).  I even did my hair.  I wanted to make sure that I was I perfect so that my dad would be proud of me and to not give him any reason to lose his temper on me.  As far as I can remember the day did turn out to be perfect.  We had a lot of fun and I have no memory of anything going wrong.  However, when we got home my dad started telling my brother and I what a disappointment we are and how his friend’s kids were so much better and smarter than we were. Then my dad focused his attention solely on me and told me that I could try and dress up however I wanted, but that I would still be fat and ugly and stupid and worthless, and so on and so forth. He paid special attention to making me understand how ugly and fat I was – probably because he knew I had tried to look pretty.  All I could do was cry, but he just kept getting angrier and angrier until he found the perfect solution.  He grabbed an apple and put it in my mouth and made me sit in the corner of the kitchen and said, “Now you look like a real pig.”

I don’t know how long I sat there like that or for how long my dad and my brother teased me with pig sounds and laughed at me.  Eventually I found that I had drooled all down the front of my shirt and my skirt (because I couldn’t swallow due to the apple in my mouth). To make matters even worse, my dad broke out the Polaroid camera and took a picture so he could show my mom when she got home.  When she did, I was still sitting in the corner with the apple in my mouth. He showed her the picture and laughed the whole time.  She laughed right along with him.  That was the end of the memory-dream.  It was very powerful and was played on a loop all night long. I even woke up, watched television for an hour, and fell right back into the same dream.

At first, I didn’t understand the connection between this memory and the puzzle I was trying to solve.  I was perplexed.  Why was I remembering this now? Why did it play repeatedly in my mind? This was one of many childhood memories I had never wanted to remember again. That’s when the answer came to me. This was the fork in my road. The present-day me had traveled back to hear the thoughts of the little me:  how it felt to get all dressed up and how happy I thought my dad would be by my efforts, only to find myself sitting in the corner humiliated with the apple in my mouth. I felt the heat of that little girl’s tears and heard her think to herself, “Never again.” And from that moment, I never again tried too hard at anything.

Even though I could feel little Dawn’s pain, I knew the present-day me, the big Dawn, could change how this moment affected me from now on.  I was able to look back and see and experience the same situation, but I was now able to see it from the perspectives of my dad, my brother and my mom.  I saw that my brother was just looking for my dad’s approval and at the same time, if he kept my dad focused on me, then the abuse wouldn’t fall on him. My mom laughed only out of fear of what would happen to her if she didn’t. In truth, she was horrified at his treatment of me.  As for my dad (I could say a lot about how I know this but that will have to wait for another article), what I now saw was that every awful, horrible thing he was saying to me was exactly how he felt about himself. The truth was, he thought his friend was better looking because he was thin, tall, dark and handsome. My dad felt he was fat, short, dark and ugly.  My dad resented that his friend was a great dad and his kids genuinely liked him; unlike my dad, whose kids were terrified of him.

When all these thoughts dawned on me, both little Dawn and big Dawn were able to see the truth.  Even though we had had this humiliating experience, it truly had nothing to do with my attempt to try to be the best I could be. The truth was that when I was getting ready that day, I felt pretty and I felt proud. That was my truth. The horrible results were because of someone else’s thoughts of failure within themselves.  And the other people involved responded out of fear and not because they thought I was fat and ugly. As I realized the truth of the situation, I also realized that this was my chance to change things for the better.  I found myself back at the fork in the road – the moment when I could make a decision to have this experience propel me rather than inhibit me.  I have decided to take the fork that leads to success.  However, this time I am grabbing little Dawn’s hand and taking her with me.

Join me on my new quest for greatness:  Soulgineering Radio, on Blogtalk radio starting April 4th at 10am PST.

 

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What is a Life Coach?

We all want to be Happy, Healthy and Successful. The good news is that it is all within your reach. A life coach can help and guide you to reach your goals, to
become who and what  you want to be, and to free you from all your self-limiting beliefs.

Life coaching is based on overcoming your obstacles and then using practical, forward thinking techniques you can use in everyday life and decisions that will achieve a change in direction for a better future. It is one of the most powerful support systems to help get you moving in the direction you want.   A life coach can help you to clearly identify your goals and then guide you towards making them real.

The life coaching process is a journey of self-discovery and will offer you alternative life choices. You will be amazed at how this process with benefit you and helps you move forward with a positive outlook.

Life coaches make use of several techniques to assist you.  They begin by helping you to identify the issues that may be preventing you from moving forward towards a better and more successful future. By working closely with your life coach, you will be able to plan the right steps for you to take in order to reach your future goals, whether they are short or long term.

The truth is, all the complex situations and issues in your life, both personal and professional, start from an unresolved first incident. The situation becomes more complicated over time as more incidents occur with little or no action being taken to resolve it. Let us look at this objectively.  Maybe you had the chance to resolve an issue at the time it first happened but you chose not to think about or work on it.  You might have thought that if you just left it alone, it would go away. The end result is that you are now stressed and unhappy.  You might even be in denial – acting as if nothing is wrong and still avoiding tackling the matter. However, you have to take responsibility for whatever this issue is that is holding you back. It is in your hands to nip the incident in the bud before it becomes a bigger issue.

We all know the tale about the little Dutch boy who stuck his finger into the dam to plug a water leak and stayed there all night until the leak could be mended and so saving the entire town from certain flooding. The boy could have left the leak in the hope that it would lessen, but instead his quick thinking and courage prevented a small leak from becoming a flood. The moral of the story is that it is better to resolve a situation when it is still small and manageable otherwise it can snowball and become a crisis. Once you start doing this it will make it so much easier to deal with any situation.

Where life coaching comes in is in guiding you through a process of understanding your current  situation and the issues surrounding it.  A life coach will work to help you to discover your true potential and then show you how to prioritize your life in order to fulfill your goals.

Everyday, you have to make decisions, some minor, some major but the first step in the process is to ask yourself: do I need a new way to look at the decisions I am making?

If you are not totally happy with the direction of your life ask yourself the following questions:

  • Why did this happen?
  • What can I do to avoid this happening again?

If you have difficulty answering, then a life coach would be the perfect solution.  They will help you to unearth and reveal deeply seated and hidden values that shape all your decisions in life.

Nadia Sylvester is a qualified Life Coach and the founder of NSP Coaching.

Visit Nadia’s official website to learn about her methods of Life Coaching.

Listen to Nadia’s interview on Spiritual Perpsectives

Listen to internet radio with Sara Vitale and Dawn Kaztin on Blog Talk Radio

Beating Discouragement

When you are feeling down and sad, unwilling or unmotivated to continue, discouragement might have taken a grip of you.  You might have just lost a business, or gotten turned down for a job.  Maybe you’re not where you thought you’d be at this age or you’re overwhelmed by the amount of learning you have to do to reach your next goal.  Whatever the reason may be for your discouragement, understanding where it comes from will help you deal with it and have it disappear from your life as fast as it came.

What causes discouragement?

There are many reasons why we feel discouraged.  They include criticism, family troubles, financial problems, poor health, daunting tasks, perfectionism, comparing yourself to others, pessimism, feeling undervalued or under appreciated, or having faced rejection.

As Rick Warren states:  When you are physically or emotionally fatigued things might seem bleaker than they really are.  When you are frustrated and overwhelmed by the amount of tasks you must complete it’s easier to get discouraged.  When something you’ve been planning or working on falls through and you think you’ve failed.  When we’re afraid of what other people will think, or if we’ll be able to handle it.

H0w can we overcome discouragement?

Talk to someone.  Vent your frustration with someone you trust and/or with a professional.  Ask someone to help you look at the situation from a different perspective.  Sometimes just shifting your focus and seeing the situation in a new light might give you the motivation and energy to keep going.

Give back to others.  The gift of giving will help those who receive your gift but it’ll also help you feel good inside.  The gift can be material but it can also mean giving someone your time and energy, or giving them a smile and a hug.

Be realistic. Distinguish between the things you can change and the things you can’t.   For example, if you are feeling discouraged by the lack of progress you are making in learning to play a new instrument, realize that it takes time to be proficient at it.  You might not be an expert in a couple of lessons but keep on practicing and you just might be the next master at your craft.

If your discouragement has come about because someone criticized you, before you let it get to you consider the source.  Artist Nancy Doyle encourages us to ask ourselves several questions:

Does the person have training or experience? Is the person able to be objective? Does the person have a similar sensibility to me? How intelligent is this person? This goes both ways – if the person is intelligent, has training, has no axe to grind – perhaps some of what they are saying is true. We need to accept criticism without necessarily buying into it, or at least suspend our judgment. We need to consider it, over time, to see if there is anything we can gain from it. We can’t take it personally; we can’t feel that it renders us worthless as artists or people. If we look at it without our egos, we may glean great insight and help to make our work better.

Leonie Dawson, author and spiritual visionary, provides four powerful methods to beat discouragement.  The first is to use the 5/5/5 Rule:  ask yourself how much it is going to impact you in 5 days or 5 months or 5 years from now.  The second is to remember your vision.  Return to that place of knowing what is truly important to completing that which you have set out to do.  And the third is to mend your wounds.  Meet yourself where you are at right now.  Not where you were before or where you hope to be, but right now in this very moment.  Go outside and get a breath of fresh air.  Treat yourself to a luxurious bath or a movie you’ve wanted to see.  And lastly, bring in something new into your life.  It could be a new class, a new hobby or a new friend.

In his blogpost Overcoming Discouragement, Scott H. Young encourages us to reward ourselves when we’ve attempted something, even if it failed:

Whenever you take steps outside your past limitations, either in conquering your fears, improving your skills or increasing your own willpower you must recognize and reward that victory even if the rest of the world won’t.  When you reward attempts even when they aren’t successful you are signaling to your brain that taking there is value in attempting something that isn’t attached to a particular outcome.

Whatever the reason for your discouragement, the important thing is to recognize it for what it is and to take action to remedy it.  Not doing so might lead to more serious consequences including depression and possibly even suicide for some.  However, if you nip the problem in the bud you might just walk out of the situation happy and on the road to success.

 

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10 Steps to Awaken Your Intuition

 

Intuition.  We’ve all felt its effects at one point or another.  That nagging feeling that we should be doing something.  Or that the right answer lies in a particular direction.  Or that something is going to happen.  The voice in your head that tells you what to do or warns you of danger.

By definition, intuition is a sense or feeling that cannot readily be explained away by conscious logical or rational thought.  It is an instinctive knowledge that triggers a particular response from you.   People who place great value on common sense and rationality are afraid of it.  Others swear by it.  But where does it come from?  And what if you were able to tune into it more frequently?  What if you were able to harness its power?

Where does intuition come from and why should I awaken and develop my intuition?

Intuition helps you tap into your subconscious mind.  It helps you get to know yourself better and make better decisions as a result.  By developing your intuition you will be better able to find answers to your problems, or better yet, avoid problems altogether.  Less problems leads to less stress and less stress means a healthier you.  Intuition also allows you to have better relationships and better communication because you instinctively know how another might be feeling or what they are or aren’t ready to hear.

If you learn to develop your intuition you will have the added benefit of joining a club that includes many successful businessmen, CEO’s, artists and other highly successful people who constantly state that it was a “gut feeling” or their intuition that led them to make better decisions.  An article on Quadrant1.com states that

“When we have modelled the cognitive strategy of CEO’s we have found that intuition is actually a super-fast review of past experiences and decisions, using the visual mode of thinking. In fact it is often so fast that they are doing it unconsciously. This can, and has, made their CFO’s and CIO’s nervous as they appear to be basing their decisions on no analysis at all – just a gut feeling. What they have missed however are the many events of visualising the past and future in order to formulate their decisions. Because it is so fast other people misinterpret the signals, especially if they have not been trained to model a person’s thinking process.”

What steps can I take to build up my intuitive muscles?

1)  Quiet the chatter in your mind so that you can hear your intuitive voice. You can practice meditation or talk a quiet walk.   Perform a mindless task that will allow your mind to clear itself.  Without a quiet mind,your intuitive voice might be talking but you might not be able to hear it.

2)  Get to know yourself and how you make decisions.  Do you make decisions impulsively, based on knowledge, based on a gut feeling, or a combination?  This will in turn lead you to having intuitive instincts that lead you in increasingly better and better directions.  The Harvard Business Review recently posted an article about this subject and declared that

“Successful and consistent deployment of intuition, however, requires more than just domain knowledge. It also requires deep introspection, “an intense journey into yourself.” If you are going to understand the biases, emotions, and offsets of your decision-making compass which may effectually trump your domain knowledge and result in poor judgments, you must learn to “observe all men, but yourself most.”

3) Let go of expectations.  Just because you need your intuition to kick in immediately doesn’t mean it will.  By expecting a particular outcome by a certain time, instead of listening to your intuition you run the risk of listening to wishful thinking.  Go slow.  Developing the intuitive muscle takes time.

4)  Use your dreams as an intuitive tool.  Before you go to sleep think about a problem you’d like to solve or a situation in which you’d like to gain clarity.  Make a mental note of any dreams you have and either write them down in a journal or tell them to someone.  When you are in a quiet but alert state, review the dreams and see if you get any feelings from them.

4)  Once you’ve found your intuitive voice, trust it.  Notice it.    Make a mental review of the first impressions you’ve had lately.  Now think about those same situations in a rational, logical way.  How often were your first impressions right?  Use intuition to pair it with logic to help you make the right decisions.  As the saying goes, “When intuition and logic agree, you are always right.”

5)  Write down all the instances in which you’ve felt your intuition’s guidance.  Do you see a pattern?  Is your intuition highly developed when it comes to danger but not so much when it comes to work or relationships?  Work on those areas that have room for improvement.  Focus on one area at a time.

6)  Practice hypnosis.  Hypnosis helps you develop a stronger bond between your conscious mind and your subconscious, ultimately leading to a stronger intuitive muscle.  Enter into a state of complete physical relaxation but induce a state of acute mental concentration.  Focus on the thoughts that come up.  Have someone record your session so that you can study it at a later time.   Do you see images, do you have feelings, hear sounds, or just have a general sense of knowingness?  Make a note of how you receive the intuitive messages so that you can notice them better when they appear in your everyday life.

7)  Do blind readings to answer a particular problem or issue you are having.  Concentrate on the problem at hand, write all the potential solutions on an index card or piece of paper, turn these over, and pass your hands over each one.  Start pulling out the ones that you are drawn to the most.  Turn them over and read them.  Were they the ones you were leaning towards in the first place?

8)  Get a coach, instructor or personal trainer who you work with regularly to strenghten your intuitive muscles. For example, Sonia Choquette teaches you how to get a psychic six pack by exercising your psychic muscles through her Psychic Sit Ups Course.  She gives you seven-minute exercises via video that will help you work your intuitive muscles to the point that it becomes second nature for you to use them.  You can watch the videos in the privacy of your home and as often as you like.

9)  Stay informed.  Read articles or books on intuition.  Download podcasts or audiobooks.  Talk to others who already have a developed intuitive muscle.  Find out how others have done it and chances are you will find an exercise that works perfectly for you.  About.com’s Holistic Healing section has a great listing of sites around the internet that will give you more information.

10)  Share your experiences with others that are like-minded.  The more you tell others about your intuition, the more details you’ll remember and the better and faster you will get at it.

 

Image courtesy of Lilichka.

The God Memorandum

TO:  YOU

FROM:  GOD

Take counsel.

I hear your cry.

It passes through the darkness, filters through the clouds, mingles with starlight, and finds its way to my heart on the path of a sunbeam.

I have anguished over the cry of a hare choked in the noose of a snare, a sparrow tumbled from the nest of its mother, a child thrashing helplessly in a pond, and a son shedding his blood on a cross.

Know that I hear you, also. Be at peace. Be calm.

I bring thee relief for your sorrow for I know its cause … and its cure.

You weep for all your childhood dreams that have vanished with the years.

You weep for all your self-esteem that has been corrupted by failure.

You weep for all your potential that has been bartered for security.

You weep for all your talent that has been wasted through misuse.

You look upon yourself with disgrace and you turn in terror from the image you see in the pool. Who is this mockery of humanity staring back at you with bloodless eyes of shame?

Where is the grace of your manner, the beauty of your figure, the quickness of your movement, the clarity of your mind, the brilliance of your tongue? Who stole your goods? Is the thief’s identity known to you, as it is to me?

Once you placed your head in a pillow of grass in your father’s field and looked up at a cathedral of clouds and knew that all the gold of Babylon would be yours in time.

Once you read from many books and wrote on many tablets, convinced beyond any doubt that all the wisdom of Solomon would be equaled and surpassed by you.

And the seasons would flow into years until lo, you would reign supreme in your own garden of Eden.

Dost thou remember who implanted those plans and dreams and seeds of hope within you?

You cannot.

You have no memory of that moment when first you emerged from your mother’s womb and I placed my hand on your soft brow. And the secret I whispered in your small ear when I bestowed my blessings upon you?

Remember our secret?

You cannot.

The passing years have destroyed your recollection, for they have filled your mind with fear and doubt and anxiety and remorse and hate and there is no room for joyful memories where these beasts habitate.

Weep no more. I am with you … and this moment is the dividing line of your life. All that has gone before is like unto no more than that time you slept within your mother’s womb. What is past is dead. Let the dead bury the dead.

This day you return from the living dead.

This day, like unto Elijah with the widow’s son, I stretch myself upon thee three times and you live again.

This day, like unto Elisha with the Shunammite’s son, I put my mouth upon your mouth and my eyes upon your eyes and my hands upon your hands and your flesh is warm again.

This day, like unto Jesus at the tomb of Lazarus, I command you to come forth and you will walk from your cave of doom to begin a new life.

This is your birthday. This is your new date of birth. Your first life, like unto a play of the theatre, was only a rehearsal. This time the curtain is up. This time the world watches and waits to applaud. This time you will not fail.

Light your candles. Share your cake. Pour the wine. You have been reborn.

Like a butterfly from its chrysalis you will fly … fly as high as you wish, and neither the wasps nor dragonflies nor mantids of mankind shall obstruct your mission or your search for the true riches of life.

Feel my hand upon thy head.

Attend to my wisdom.

Let me share with you, again, the secret you heard at your birth and forgot.

You are my greatest miracle.

You are the greatest miracle in the world.

Those were the first words you ever heard. Then you cried. They all cry …

You did not believe me then … and nothing has happened in the intervening years to correct your disbelief. For how could you be a miracle when you consider yourself a failure at the most menial of tasks? How can you be a miracle when you have little confidence in dealing with the most trivial of responsibilities? How can you be a miracle when you are shackled by debt and lie awake in torment over whence will come tomorrow’s bread?

Enough. The milk that is spilled is sour. Yet, how many prophets, how many wise men, how many poets, how many artists, how many composers, how many scientists, how many philosophers and messengers have I sent with word of your divinity, your potential for godliness, and the secrets of achievement? How did you treat them?

Still I love you and I am with you now, through these words, to fulfill the prophet who announced that the Lord shall set his hand again, the second time, to recover the remnant of his people.

I have set my hand again.

This is the second time.

You are my remnant.

It is of no avail to ask, haven’t you known, haven’t you heard, hasn’t it been told to you from the beginning; haven’t you understood from the foundations of the earth?

You have not known; you have not heard; you have not understood.

You have been told that you are a divinity in disguise, a god playing a fool.

You have been told that you a special piece of work, noble in reason, infinite in faculties, express and admirable in form and moving, like an angel in action, like a god in apprehension.

You have been told that you are the salt of the earth.

You were given the secret even of moving mountains, of performing the impossible.

You believed no one. You burned your map to happiness, you abandoned your claim to peace of mind, you snuffed out the candles that had been placed along your destined path of glory, and then you stumbled, lost and frightened, in the darkness of futility and self-pity, until you fell into a hell of your own creation.

Then you cried and beat your breast and cursed the luck that had befallen you. You refused to accept the consequences of your own petty thoughts and lazy deeds and you searched for a scapegoat on which to blame your failure. How quickly you found one.

You blamed me!

You cried that your handicaps, your mediocrity, your lack of opportunity, your failures … were the will of God!

You were wrong!

Let us take inventory. Let us, first, call a roll of your handicaps. For how can I ask you to build a new life lest you have the tools?

Are you blind? Does the sun rise and fall without your witness?

No. You can see … and the hundred million receptors I have placed in your eyes enable you to enjoy the magic of a leaf, a snowflake, a pond, an eagle, a child, a cloud, a star, a rose, a rainbow … and the look of love. Count one blessing.

Are you deaf? Can a baby laugh or cry without your attention?

No. You can hear … and the twenty-four thousand fibers I have built in each of your ears vibrate to the wind in the trees, the tides on the rocks, the majesty of an opera, a robin’s plea, children at play … and the words I love you. Count another blessing.

Are you mute? Do your lips move and bring forth only spittle?

No. You can speak … as can no other of my creatures, and your words can calm the angry, uplift the despondent, goad the quitter, cheer the unhappy, warm the lonely, praise the worthy, encourage the defeated, teach the ignorant … and say I love you. Count another blessing.

Are you paralyzed? Does your helpless form despoil the land?

No. You can move. You are not a tree condemned to a small plot while the wind and world abuses you. You can stretch and run and dance and work, for within you I have designed five hundred muscles, two hundred bones, and seven miles of nerve fiber all synchronized by me to do your bidding. Count another blessing.

Are you unloved and unloving? Does loneliness engulf you, night and day?

No. No more. For now you know love’s secret, that to receive love it must be given with no thought of its return. To love for fulfillment, satisfaction, or pride is no love. Love is a gift on which no return is demanded. Now you know that to love unselfishly is its own reward. And even should love not be returned it is not lost, for love not reciprocated will flow back to you and soften and purify your heart. Count another blessing. Count twice.

Is your heart stricken? Does it leak and strain to maintain your life?

No. Your heart is strong. Touch your chest and feel its rhythm, pulsating, hour after hour, day and night, thirty-six million beats each year, year after year, asleep or awake, pumping your blood through more than sixty thousand miles of veins, arteries, and tubing … pumping more than six hundred thousand gallons each year. Man has never created such a machine. Count another blessing.

Are you diseased of skin? Do people turn in horror when you approach?

No. Your skin is clear and a marvel of creation, needing only that you tend it with soap and oil and brush and care. In time all steels will tarnish and rust, but not your skin. Eventually the strongest of metals will wear, with use, but not that layer that I have constructed around you. Constantly it renews itself, old cells replaced by new, just as the old you is now replaced by the new. Count another blessing.

Are your lungs befouled? Does your breath of life struggle to enter your body?

No. Your portholes to life support you even in the vilest of environments of your own making, and they labor always to filter life-giving oxygen through six hundred million pockets of folded flesh while they rid your body of gaseous wastes. Count another blessing.

Is your blood poisoned? Is it diluted with water and pus?

No. Within your five quarts of blood are twenty-two trillion blood cells and within each cell are millions of molecules and within each molecule is an atom oscillating at more than ten million times each second. Each second, two million of your blood cells die to be replaced by two million more in a resurrection that has continued since your first birth. As it has always been inside, so now it is on your outside. Count another blessing.

Are you feeble of mind? Can you no longer think for yourself?

No. Your brain is the most complex structure in the universe. I know. Within its three pounds are thirteen billion nerve cells, more than three times as many cells as there are people on your earth. To help you file away every perception, every sound, every taste, every smell, every action you have experienced since the day of your birth, I have implanted, within your cells, more than one thousand billion billion protein molecules. Every incident in your life is there waiting only your recall. And, to assist your brain in the control of your body I have dispersed, throughout your form, four million pain-sensitive structures, five hundred thousand touch detectors, and more than two hundred thousand temperature detectors. No nation’s gold is better protected than you. None of your ancient wonders are greater than you.

You are my finest creation.

Within you is enough atomic energy to destroy any of the world’s great cities … and rebuild it.

Are you poor? Is there no gold or silver in your purse?

No. You are rich! Together we have just counted your wealth. Study the list. Count them again. Tally your assets!

Why have you betrayed yourself? Why have you cried that all the blessings of humanity were removed from you? Why did you deceive yourself that you were powerless to change your life? Are you without talent, senses, abilities, pleasures, instincts, sensations, and pride? Are you without hope? Why do you cringe in the shadows, a giant defeated, awaiting only sympathetic transport into the welcome void and dampness of hell?

You have so much. Your blessings overflow your cup … and you have been unmindful of them, like a child spoiled in luxury, since I have bestowed them upon you with generosity and regularity.

Answer me.

Answer yourself.

What rich man, old and sick, feeble and helpless, would not exchange all the gold in his vault for the blessings you have treated so lightly.

Know then the first secret to happiness and success – that you possess, even now, every blessing necessary to achieve great glory. They are your treasure, your tools with which to build, starting today, the foundation for a new and better life.

Therefore, I say unto you, count your blessings and know that you already are my greatest creation. This is the first law you must obey in order to perform the greatest miracle in the world, the return of your humanity from living death.

And be grateful for your lessons learned in poverty. For he is not poor who has little; only he that desires much … and true security lies not in the things one has but in the things one can do without.

Where are the handicaps that produced your failure? They existed only in your mind.

Count your blessings.

And the second law is like unto the first. Proclaim your rarity.

You had condemned yourself to a potter’s field, and there you lay, unable to forgive your own failure, destroying yourself with self-hate, self-incrimination, and revulsion at your crimes against yourself and others.

Are you not perplexed?

Do you not wonder why I am able to forgive your failures, your transgressions, your pitiful demeanor … when you cannot forgive yourself?

I address you now, for three reasons. You need me. You are not one of a herd heading for destruction in a gray mass of mediocrity. And … you are a great rarity.

Consider a painting by Rembrandt or a bronze by Degas or a violin by Stradivarius or a play by Shakespeare. They have great value for two reasons: their creators were masters and they are few in number. Yet there are more than one of each of these.

On that reasoning you are the most valuable treasure on the face of the earth, for you know who created you and there is only one of you.

Never, in all the seventy billion humans who have walked this planet since the beginning of time has there been anyone exactly like you.

Never, until the end of time, will there be another such as you.

You have shown no knowledge or appreciation of your uniqueness.

Yet, you are the rarest thing in the world.

From your father, in his moment of supreme love, flowed countless seeds of love, more than four hundred million in number. All of them, as they swam within your mother, gave up the ghost and died. All except one! You.

You alone persevered within the loving warmth of your mother’s body, searching for your other half, a single cell from your mother so small that more than two million would be necessary to fill an acorn shell. Yet, despite impossible odds, in that vast ocean of darkness and disaster, you persevered, found that infinitesimal cell, joined with it, and began a new life. Your life.

You arrived, bringing with you, as does every child, the message that I was not yet discouraged of man. Two cells now united in a miracle. Two cells, each containing twenty-three chromosomes and within each chromosome hundreds of genes, which would govern every characteristic about you, from the color of your eyes to the charm of your manner, to the size of your brain.

With all the combinations at my command, beginning with that single sperm from your father’s four hundred million, through the hundreds of genes in each of the chromosomes from your mother and father, I could have created three hundred thousand billion humans, each different from the other.

But who did I bring forth?

You! One of a kind. Rarest of the rare. A priceless treasure, possessed of qualities in mind and speech and movement and appearance and actions as no other who has ever lived, lives, or shall live.

Why have you valued yourself in pennies when you are worth a king’s ransom?

Why did you listen to those who demeaned you … and far worse, why did you believe them?

Take counsel. No longer hide your rarity in the dark. Bring it forth. Show the world. Strive not to walk as your brother walks, nor talk as your leader talks, nor labor as do the mediocre. Never do as another. Never imitate. For how do you know that you may not imitate evil; and he who imitates evil always goes beyond the example set, while he who imitates what is good always falls short. Imitate no one. Be yourself. Show your rarity to the world and they will shower you with gold. This then is the second law.

Proclaim your rarity.

And now you have received two laws.

Count your blessings! Proclaim your rarity!

You have no handicaps. You are not mediocre.

You nod. You force a smile. You admit your self-deception.

What of your next complaint? Opportunity never seeks thee?

Take counsel and it shall come to pass, for now I give you the law of success in every venture. Many centuries ago this law was given to your forefathers from a mountain top. Some heeded the law and lo, their life was filled with the fruit of happiness, accomplishment, gold, and peace of mind. Most listened not, for they sought magic means, devious routes, or waited for the devil called luck to deliver to them the riches of life. They waited in vain … just as you waited, and then they wept, blaming their lack of fortune.

The law is simple. Young or old, pauper or king, white or black, male or female … all can use the secret to their advantage; for all the rules and speeches and scriptures of success and how to attain it, only one method has never failed … whomsoever shall compel ye to go with him one mile … go with him two.

This then is the third law … the secret that will produce riches and acclaim beyond your dreams. Go another mile!

The only certain means of success is to render more and better service than is expected of you, no matter what your task may be. This is a habit followed by all successful people since the beginning of time. Therefore I saith the surest way to doom yourself to mediocrity is to perform only the work for which you are paid.

Think not ye are being cheated if you deliver more than the silver you receive. For there is a pendulum to all life and the sweat you deliver, if not rewarded today, will swing back tomorrow, tenfold. The mediocre never goes another mile, for why should he cheat himself, he thinks. But you are not mediocre. To go another mile is a privilege you must appropriate by your own initiative. You cannot, you must not avoid it. Neglect it, do only as little as the others, and the responsibility for your failure is yours alone.

You can no more render service without receiving just compensation than you can withhold the rendering of it without suffering the loss of reward. Cause and effect, means and ends, seed and fruit, these cannot be separated. The effect already blooms in the cause, the end pre-exists in the means, and the fruit is always in the seed.

Go another mile.

Concern yourself not, should you serve an ungrateful master. Serve him more.

And instead of him, let it be me who is in your debt, for then you will know that every minute, every stroke of extra service will be repaid. And worry not, should your reward not come soon. For the longer payment is withheld, the better for you … and compound interest on compound interest is this law’s greatest benefit.

You cannot command success, you can only deserve it … and now you know the great secret necessary in order to merit its rare reward.

Go another mile!

Where is this field whence you cried there was no opportunity? Look! Look around thee. See, where only yesterday you wallowed on the refuse of self-pity, you now walk tall on a carpet of gold. Nothing has changed … except you, but you are everything.

You are my greatest miracle.

You are the greatest miracle in the world.

And now the laws of happiness and success are three.

Count your blessings! Proclaim your rarity! Go another mile!

Be patient with your progress. To count your blessings with gratitude, to proclaim your rarity with pride, to go an extra mile and then another, these acts are not accomplished in the blinking of an eye. Yet, that which you acquire with most difficulty you retain the longest; as those who have earned a fortune are more careful of it than those by whom it was inherited.

And fear not as you enter your new life. Every noble acquisition is attended with its risks. He who fears to encounter the one must not expect to obtain the other. Now you know you are a miracle. And there is no fear in a miracle.

Be proud. You are not the momentary whim of a careless creator experimenting in the laboratory of life. You are not a slave of forces that you cannot comprehend. You are a free manifestation of no force but mine, of no love but mine. You were made with a purpose.

Feel my hand. Hear my words.

You need me … and I need you.

We have a world to rebuild … and if it requireth a miracle what is that to us? We are both miracles and now we have each other.

Never have I lost faith in you since that day when I first spun you from a giant wave and tossed you helplessly on the sands. As you measure time that was more than five hundred million years ago. There were many models, many shapes, many sizes, before I reached perfection in you more than thirty thousand years ago. I have made no further effort to improve on you in all these years.

For how could one improve on a miracle? You were a marvel to behold and I was pleased. I gave you this world and dominion over it. Then, to enable you to reach your full potential I placed my hand upon you, once more, and endowed you with powers unknown to any other creature in the universe, even unto this day.

I gave you the power to think.
I gave you the power to love.
I gave you the power to will.
I gave you the power to laugh.
I gave you the power to imagine.
I gave you the power to create.
I gave you the power to plan.
I gave you the power to speak.
I gave you the power to pray.
I gave you the power to heal.

My pride in you knew no bounds. You were my ultimate creation, my greatest miracle. A complete living being. One who can adjust to any climate, any hardship, any challenge. One who can manage his own destiny without any interference from me. One who can translate a sensation or perception, not by instinct, but by thought and deliberation into whatever action is best for himself and all humanity.

Thus we come to the fourth law of success and happiness … for I gave you one more power, a power so great that not even my angels possess it.

I gave you … the power to choose.

With this gift I placed you even above my angels … for angels are not free to choose sin. I gave you complete control over your destiny. I told you to determine, for yourself, your own nature in accordance with your own free will. Neither heavenly nor earthly in nature, you were free to fashion yourself in whatever form you preferred. You had the power to choose to degenerate into the lowest forms of life, but you also had the power, out of your soul’s judgment, to be reborn into the higher forms, which are divine.

I have never withdrawn your great power, the power to choose.

What have you done with this tremendous force? Look at yourself. Think of the choices you have made in your life and recall, now, those bitter moments when you would fall to your knees if only you had the opportunity to choose again.

What is past is past … and now you know the fourth great law of happiness and success … Use wisely, your power of choice.

Choose to love … rather than hate.
Choose to laugh … rather than cry.
Choose to create … rather than destroy.
Choose to persevere … rather than quit.
Choose to praise … rather than gossip.
Choose to heal … rather than wound.
Choose to give … rather than steal.
Choose to act … rather than procrastinate.
Choose to grow … rather than rot.
Choose to pray … rather than curse.
Choose to live … rather than die.

Now you know that your misfortunes were not my will, for all power was vested in you, and the accumulation of deeds and thoughts which placed you on the refuse of humanity were your doing, not mine. My gifts of power were too large for your small nature. Now you have grown tall and wise and the fruits of the land will be yours.

You are more than a human being, you are a human becoming.

You are capable of great wonders. Your potential is unlimited. Who else, among my creatures, has mastered fire? Who else, among my creatures, has conquered gravity, has pierced the heavens, has conquered disease and pestilence and drought?

Never demean yourself again!

Never settle for the crumbs of life!

Never hide your talents, from this day hence!

Remember the child who says, “when I am big boy.” But what is that? For the big boy says. “when I grow up.” And then the grown up, he says, “when I am wed.” But to be wed, what is that, after all? The thought then changes to “when I retire.” And then, retirement comes, and he looks back over it and somehow he has missed it all and it is gone.

Enjoy this day, today … and tomorrow, tomorrow.

You have performed the greatest miracle in the world.

You have returned from a living death.

You will feel self-pity no more and each new day will be a challenge and a joy.

You have been born again … but just as before, you can choose failure and despair or success and happiness. The choice is yours. The choice is exclusively yours. I can only watch, as before … in pride … or sorrow.

Remember, then, the four laws of happiness and success.

Count your blessings.

Proclaim your rarity.

Go another mile.

Use wisely your power of choice.

And one more, to fulfill the other four. Do all things with love … love for yourself, love for all others, and love for me.

Wipe away your tears. Reach out, grasp my hand, and stand straight.

Let me cut the grave cloths that have bound you.

This day you have been notified.

YOU ARE THE GREATEST MIRACLE IN THE WORLD

 

Excerpt from the book “The Greatest Miracle in the World” by Og Mandino.

Reaching for the Moon

“I want to shoot for the moon… in case you miss you always hit a star.”

Maria Castro is a 17-year old Junior at Carl Hayden Community High School.  She’s an exemplary student who is in honors classes, is in the high school band, and is Vice President of the Robotics team.  What does she do after school?  She studies an accelerated math program that will teach her two years of calculus in two semesters – a program which she lobbied for. Maria seems to be on the right track to get into Stanford University, her number one choice.

What makes Maria’s story special is the odds she’s facing just to complete high school, much less attend a prestigious university.  In an interview with CNN’s Soledad O’Brien, she tells the story of the attitude she’s facing at home:

Through tears, she tells me a heart-wrenching story about overhearing her father speaking with one of her favorite teachers at her quinceanera — her 15th birthday celebration. The teacher was raving about Maria’s dreams and strong academics. “It’s just a matter of time before she fails,” Maria says she heard her dad tell the teacher. “It doesn’t really matter what she does now, she will eventually give up.” Maria recalls the story for me as tears roll down her cheeks. Where many students would be disheartened by what they heard, Maria was spurred to achieve even more. “I kinda just took it and flipped it around like, ‘Well I’m going to show you,’” she explains. “I can prove to myself that I can do it.”

It is that drive and motivation that spurs her into action.  But it is also the support from people  like her robotics coach Fred Lajvardi:

“One of the things we talk about being on a robotics team is that you can’t let things happen to you. You have to go out and make things happen… Once they find out that they’re the only person that will limit what they can do, and they decide they want to do something, they’re going to go for it.”

To read the original CNN article go here.

Photo courtesy of CNN.